My Rating: 3 stars
Tuesday, December 28, 2021
Review: No Land to Light On (by Yara Zgheib)
Sunday, December 26, 2021
Review: Joy at Work (by Marie Kondo and Scott Sonenshein)
I received this book as a Christmas gift from one of my friends who is a huge Marie Kondo fan. While I did enjoy this one quite a bit, some parts I felt were repetitive and mostly stuff I had heard before — this was mostly chapters 4 and on, where Kondo's co-writer Scott Sonenshein writes about tidying as it pertains to digital work, time management, decisions, and networks. To be honest, when I read the "note to reader" at the beginning of the book and discovered that, out of 11 chapters, Kondo only "primarily wrote" 4 of the chapters, I did feel a bit disappointed — I mean, I knew going in that this would be a collaborative effort between Kondo and Sonenshein, but I guess I was expecting the writing to be either more evenly distributed between the two or Kondo being the primary author, since she does have more of the name recognition after all (case in point — I know my friend, for one, bought this book purely because of Marie Kondo's name of the cover…she has absolutely no clue who Scott Sonenshein is). The other thing too is that, as I was reading, I noticed distinct differences between Kondo's writing style and Sonenshein's, so when both were mashed together for this book, I felt that the flow was kind of odd and, for me at least, it did affect the reading experience more than I was expecting it to.
Having said all that, content-wise, I felt like this was one of the better "how to organize your work life" books that I've read (and I've read plenty of similar books over the course of my 20+ years working in corporate America). What made this one different in my opinion was the tone and the approach. Business self-help books (at least the ones I've read) tend to be "overly preachy" to the point that they can turn a reader like me off fairly quickly — not just because the content can sometimes be unrealistic and/or irrelevant to my job situation (i.e. turn off your email for a few hours or shut your office door to visitors for the day!), but also because the tone is often heavy-handed, with a "one method fits all" approach where oftentimes, you are made to feel like something is wrong with you if you don't follow the writer's advice. With this book, I didn't get that vibe at all — in fact, I got the opposite vibe in that the emphasis was on how everyone's situation is different and to do what works best for you (or not). As I've said before, I can't stand "overly preachy" books, especially ones with what I perceive as a pretentious tone that essentially try to guilt-trip the reader towards a particular direction, so it was refreshing to see that this one didn't take that route.
Overall, I did like this book, but as I mentioned above, I definitely would've liked it better if Kondo had been the sole author. Though I'm not a Marie Kondo fanatic like my friend, I do have a lot of admiration and respect for her work and appreciate what she has been able to achieve over the last decade. And while the effectiveness of her methods is subjective in that it might or might not be a right fit for certain people, I think what she has going for her (and why her methods are easier to accept) is her positive attitude (with a focus on joyfulness) as well as her non-aggressive approach that is very different from what we may be used to here in the United States. If Kondo does write another book at some point, I look forward to reading it. Meanwhile though, I should probably go check out her show on Netflix (I'm not a huge TV watcher anymore nowadays, as I don't have the time that I used to, but I'm willing to make an exception in this case).
Monday, December 20, 2021
Review: Joan is Okay (by Weike Wang)

My Rating: 5 stars
We're often told that it's hard to write about a book you love and for me, this was absolutely true with this particular book, as there was so much I loved about this one that I'm actually at a loss as to where I should start in my praise of it. To me, this was one of those rare books where every single aspect of it came together so perfectly – from the thought-provoking story to the wonderfully rendered characters to the sparse yet beautiful writing, to the carefully chosen prose that flowed so smoothly from page to page – to the point that I wanted this book to go on forever. When I was only a few pages into the story, I already knew that the main protagonist Joan (whose last name is never revealed to us) would be one of those characters who'll make an indelible mark on my heart – and by the end of the story, she did exactly that and then some! For me, Joan was more than just a favorite character; she was a kindred spirit whose smart, observant, witty voice expressed thoughts and feelings that I resonated deeply with. Though certain aspects of Joan's background were similar to mine (Chinese daughter of immigrant parents who came to the U.S. in pursuit of the American dream; has a disillusioned older brother whose values are opposite of her own; grew up in a household where she had to straddle two completely different and opposing cultures, etc.), where we actually had the most in common was in our reclusive personalities, which is significant to me because my personality plays a huge role in my life experiences. This is partly why I related so well to Joan as a character, since so many of her experiences and struggles are ones I'm familiar with myself. When Joan talks about immersing herself as deeply into the studious part of her schooling (she "went from library to classroom and only returned to the dorm to sleep") as she could to avoid having to socialize or interact with others, or when her boss praises her work ethic, she cringes and tries to change the subject because she hates drawing attention to herself and is uncomfortable receiving praise, or when she has problems communicating with others, whether friends or family, and therefore gets herself into awkward situations – all of these are deja vu experiences that I've struggled with my entire life. Most of all, Joan's "relationship" with her work hit the hardest for me, as I struggle with the exact same experience of being defined primarily by my work, often to the detriment of other "relationships" as well as to my own well-being (I both laughed and cried at Joan's "reaction" to being forced to take time off from work – I laughed because it was truly hilarious how that situation unfolded, but then thinking about the implications in my own situation was a bit upsetting). Reading this book was actually a roller coaster ride for me emotionally – at some parts, I would laugh so hard that I nearly fell out of my chair, but then on the next page, something would happen that would be a gut punch to me and I'd feel like crying.
One of the things that this book did exceptionally well was breakdown the aspects of Chinese versus American culture in a way that was succinct and accurate (and funny without deliberately trying to be funny), yet still respectful to both cultures. My favorite scenes were the ones where Joan would have conversations with her mother, whether by phone or face-to-face, and a few words in, the various clashes of culture (east versus west), generation (older vs younger), values (work vs family), etc. would come out in full force – clashes that I was more than familiar with having experienced most of them myself continuously my entire life. Most of the conversations were short, but yet, there was so much context there, and covering so much ground. Being an immigrant myself, I'm of course drawn to immigrant stories and having read my fair share of them, I have to say that this book, more than any of the others I've read, comes the closest to relaying what my personal journey as a Chinese woman growing up in an immigrant family in America truly feels like.
As I said from the beginning, there was so much I loved about this book that there's no way I would be able to do justice to it with a simple review. In addition to the "immigrant story" aspect (though those of us who read a lot of immigrant stories will quickly find out that this one is technically not the "typical" immigrant story that we are used to reading), this is also a timely story that, in its short 200+ pages, manages to also explore what it is like being a Chinese American female doctor working at a major hospital in New York at the height of the COVID-19 pandemic (having followed the news and the course of events in society over the past 18 months, the significance of this portrayal is not lost on me). This is a book that I highly, highly recommend and yes, I am definitely going to go back and read this author's debut novel, Chemistry.
As a concluding thought, I wanted to share an excerpt of one of my favorite passages from the book (this is one of many – looking back, I probably highlighted close to 80% of the book!). The lead up to this is that Joan is reflecting on an incident earlier on when she let her neighbor Mark talk her into having a party at her New York apartment – a situation that actually she abhors, since she hates parties:
My epiphany. Mark was just like Reese [her colleague at the hospital] —well-meaning in some ways, clueless in others. Neither could imagine having wasted another person's time or consuming every square inch of air in a room. Because Room People were full of themselves. They believed their own perspectives reigned supreme. And whereas I was taught to not stick out or aggravate your surroundings, to not cause any trouble and to be a good guest, someone like Mark was brought up with different rules—yes, push back, provoke, assert yourself, some trouble is good, since the rest of us will always go easy on you and, if anything, reward you for just being you....I chose to not text him back or do what I wanted to do, which was call and lay into him until he could finally see where I was coming from. Expending more energy on him wasn't the answer. Why try to explain yourself to someone who had no capacity to listen?
This was one of many profound passages from the book that I loved because, through Joan's voice, Wang put into words my sentiments exactly when it comes to interacting with people around me. It wasn't until I read this passage that I realized I've been surrounded by "Room People" most of my life and, like Joan, I've struggled through numerous "why did I let them talk me into this" situations – but it doesn't have to be this way. Why continue to expend energy on people or situations that do nothing but bring awkwardness/misery/regret? Instead, I now understand that others may have been brought up with different rules and I don't have to compromise mine in order to conform to theirs.
Received ARC from Random House via NetGalley.
Thursday, December 16, 2021
Review: The Last House on the Street (by Diane Chamberlain)
Sunday, December 12, 2021
Review: Joyful (by Ingrid Fetell Lee)
Saturday, December 4, 2021
Review: Yours Cheerfully (by A.J. Pearce)
Tuesday, November 30, 2021
Review: Dear Mrs. Bird (by A.J. Pearce)
Friday, November 26, 2021
Review: Wish You Were Here (by Jodi Picoult)
My Rating: 4.5 stars
Sunday, November 21, 2021
Review: Euphoria (by Lily King)
Saturday, November 13, 2021
Review: How Much of These Hills is Gold (by C. Pam Zhang)
I've actually been wanting to read this book since it came out last year, but hadn't gotten around to it until recently, when one of my book clubs chose it as a monthly read. Going into this one, I will admit that I was a bit wary, as I'm not a fan of westerns (which is what this was billed as), but I was attracted to the premise of a story about a Chinese immigrant family in the American West during the gold rush era, which, of course, is not often seen in mainstream fiction. Now after having finished this, I would say that it was definitely different from what I expected, both in its bold, lyrical writing as well as in the way the story technically defied categorization in terms of genre and theme — there were elements of a western, yes, but there were also historical elements as well as magical realism that drove aspects of the story.
Majority of the story is told from the perspective of Lucy, who is twelve when we first meet her. Her Pa has just passed away and with her Ma gone for 3 years already, she and her eleven year old sister Sam are now left to fend for themselves in the mountains of the West. As they set off to bury their Pa, Lucy and Sam encounter situations that test the strength of their bond as siblings, as well as their ability to overcome their family's past. The narrative later moves further back to the past and explains the backstory to this family, giving us insight into how a Chinese family such as theirs ended up in a community where few others looked like them. Initially lured to the "golden mountains" by the promise of gold and riches, the reality couldn't be more different — weighted down by a secret in their past as well as the instability of prospecting, they switch to a grueling living by coal mining, which unfortunately does little to improve the family's situation. A third narrative moves the story 5 years after Pa's death, with Lucy and Sam reuniting again after having gone their separate ways — both siblings have changed in some ways, but underneath, they are also still the same. They decide to set off again, together this time, in pursuit of a better life in a place they can truly call their own.
This was an emotional read and one that was so beautifully written — lyrical, poetic, and so full of imagery. With that said though, as much as I loved the style of writing, I felt like the beauty of it transcended the story a bit — I'm not sure how to explain it, but I felt like, at times, I got so caught up in the depiction of a scene that I actually forgot where I was in the story and had to go back and reread. There was also an abstract quality to the writing that sometimes overshadowed the plot itself. From a historical perspective, as a few other reviewers already pointed out, there were some inaccuracies that those familiar with the time period and the history of the Chinese workers in the U.S. during that time may not be able to overlook, though for me personally, it didn't bother me too much.
In terms of character development — Lucy and Sam were characters I couldn't help but love, regardless of whatever flaws they may have had. I connected deeply with both characters, to the point that I didn't want the journey with either one of them to end. Perhaps it is because of my affinity for both of them that I didn't take to the ending too well (and that's all I'm going to say about it so as not to give anything away).
Overall, this was a worthwhile read that I definitely recommend, one that I'm also glad I finally got around to reading, however belatedly. This was a strong debut from C. Pam Zhang and I definitely look forward to the next work from her.